Wonderstand Me
Hi, I’m Mollie
I opened Wonderstand Me with the goal of providing neurodiversity affirming mental health care as a proudly neurodivergent practitioner
My work is grounded in a neurodiversity-affirming framework:
Respect for neurological differences as natural human variation
Focus on strengths as well as challenges
Provide and develop a non-pathologized understanding of neurodivergent traits
Collaborate with clients rather than directing them
Emphasize self-understanding and self-advocacy
Therapy with me is conversational, collaborative, and paced to meet your needs.
My Services
Therapy
New York based clients
virtual sessions
Coaching
individuals, and neurodiverse families
virtual sessions
in-person availability for those in the Portland, Maine area
My story.
They said, “Do you understand me?!”
I heard, “Do you wonderstand me?!”
That simple mishearing became a lifelong theme—and eventually, the heart of my work.
Before learning about autism or ADHD, I knew the feeling of being different.
I grew up learning to mask—shaping myself to fit shifting expectations, trying to make sense of why things that seemed easy for others felt so hard for me. When the world doesn’t reflect back who you really are, it’s easy to mistake difference for deficiency. Those moments of confusion and shame quietly accumulate until they become part of the story you tell yourself about who you are.
Looking back, much of my early life felt like a performance for an ever-changing audience. Each new role was crafted carefully to meet the expectations of those around me—teachers, peers, family, society. I became a keen observer of people, collecting mental notes on how to fit in, how to be seen as “good,” or at least “kind.” I now recognize that as the beginning of my fascination with human behavior, emotion, and identity.
Growing up in New York City meant constant sensory input—the hum of traffic, the smell of hot pavement, the overstimulation that never seemed to end. I was a “well-behaved child,” which really meant I was hyper-aware, constantly self-monitoring, always wondering if I was “too much” or “not enough.”
When I finally received an ADHD diagnosis during college, it was a relief to have my challenges legitimized. As a psychology major, my studies provided insight and clinical language that helped me articulate my own internal experience of ADHD traits. This was a pivotal moment as it was my first I began learning about how to better support my brain and body. This journey of learning and exploration of neurodivergence continued through my years as a preschool teacher; and though my graduate school internships I found language and community that reflected my experience with accuracy and compassion.
And with that growing understanding came the realization that I didn’t need to be “fixed.” I needed to be wonderstood.
My mission & philosophy.
I provide neurodiversity-affirming mental health services to adults and families seeking to understand themselves beyond society’s limiting narratives.
My work centers around this idea of Wonderstanding—a blend of curiosity, and unconditional acceptance.
Wonderstanding as a temperament looks like compassion
Wonderstanding as a life philosophy sounds like curiosity
Wonderstanding as a practice feels like self acceptance, not as a destination to be reached but as a lifelong relationship with the self
in an effort to reconnect with one’s own intuition, heal from internalized shame, and cultivate self-acceptance.
Wonderstanding encourages us to:
cultivate relational safety and acceptance.
observe patterns of thought, feeling, and processing styles
think beyond commonly assumed narratives or previously held expectations
expand our understanding of self and others
I work with adults and families at all stages of the neurodiversity journey: whether you are just exploring these ideas, trying to understand a diagnostic or developmental label, or are working towards acceptance and integration of new information.
Whether you’re processing a new diagnosis, are proudly self-diagnosed, or wondering if this might be a helpful lens to more clearly see yourself and others through,
Neurodiversity affirming care encourages:
relational safety
psychoeducation
alternative approaches to self expression
somatic exploration
consideration of sensory needs
invitation for accommodation
fresh perspectives and custom support strategy
“When we feel safe to authentically be—
we grow up curious, kind and ripe with creativity.
We all have different types of brains, not a single one works quite the same.
Stay open to the ‘what ifs,’ ‘how abouts,’ and ‘whys.’
Belonging begins with you and I.” — MRG
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